I have always marveled at how pretentious and hypocritical our society is but the recent survey carried out by the Pew Research Center which revealed that the most homophobic countries ranked highest in the search for gay porn on Google just reaffirmed my belief. According to Google trends, Nigeria ranks 4th in the world after Kenya, South Africa and Pakistan for volume searches for gay sex pictures! 3 African countries in the top 5 countries of the world who google gay porn? It’s almost unbelievable! What with more than 99% of the Nigerian population claiming to be anti all things gay and a rather stiff penalty for anyone caught in the gay act, it would seem unimaginable that this could be true! But Google search engines don’t lie! So who are the people who are so interested in gay porn?…are they ghosts? Since many of us claim to abhor gay and lesbian relationships. This is just a clear reflection of our hypocritical society.
Many years ago, my brother boarded a commercial bus in Lagos, sometime into the journey a Pastor/Man of God began to preach. After a while the bus conductor said something that obviously rubbed the preaching man the wrong way and according to my brother, to his shock and to the shock of the other passengers, the preacher said “F^ck you”…the conductor replied by saying “You call yourself a man of God and you’re using the F word” ( I am trying to avoid desecrating my blog by using the exact word) and to everyone’s surprise again the Pastor retorted “Yes, If I am angry I can use the F word!” And he continued preaching! When I heard this story I laughed so hard and till this day, each time I remember it still cracks me up. But, beyond being funny, it is pathetic and a true picture of what our society represents, or how does one reconcile the fact that someone who is urging people to jettison bad behavior and repent from their sins also sees nothing wrong with the use of foul language which even atheists find offensive. If that is not hypocrisy then I don’t know what is!
Just yesterday, I was reading the interview of a DNA expert here in Nigeria where he revealed that 3 out of 10 Nigerian men are not the biological fathers of their children! A whopping 30% out of a 100%! Yet it is generally seen as almost inconceivable for women (especially the married ones) to cheat! Often times, we act all pious and sanctimonious, claiming to respect and adhere to our culture but in our closets we do the opposite of what we profess publicly. Hypocrisy has become second nature to us. A man who claims not to fancy women who wear makeup, long weaves and trousers and discourages his wife from wearing them would be found ogling and cheating with the same women who wear these things. Another one claims to be the husband of one wife and will look down on a polygamist as a sinner and even though he is truly legally married to one wife, he keeps several concubines aka side chicks outside his marriage. I have heard of fully covered, hijab wearing muslim sisters who Allen prostitutes can’t compete with in the commercial sex business. Who’s fooling who?
I will not mince words in saying that Nigeria is a country of hypocrites… only 2 days ago many openly mourned the death of someone (albeit an important personality) who died in far away Bahamas, USA while barely acknowledging the gruesome killing of 48 boys in Potiskum, Yobe State which hit right at home! If those boys were related to us biologically I doubt if we would display the same reaction. 6 months down the line our Chibok girls are still missing, yet some of us are more concerned about the activities of ISIS in Syria! Most swear that they want the best for our nation, yet cast their votes based on tribal and religious sentiments and not on the competence of the aspirants. At the end of the day when we are back to square one, we all start lamenting afresh. Our hypocrisy as a people is partly responsible for where we have found ourselves today. Our hypocrisy is sickening and the sooner we mend our ways the better for all of us!